Being in a band is like being in a relationship with multiple people. While it can be extremely fun, drama and conflict cannot be avoided completely. As true artists, especially musicians, much of the product is driven by emotion. This may be great for the listener but it can also disrupt the flow of any group.

Whether you're just starting a band or trying to save your current setup, here are a few tips from experienced musicians in the Seattle area on how to avoid and resolve drama within the band.

Alexander Rasmussen of Darkhorse High and Michael Beens of Seedeater had a simple solution suggesting "Pabst" and "Whiskey," respectively. Collin Blue of Enamour recommended diffusing a tense situation with a joke.  While these methods tend to be enough most of the time, it may take a little more effort when things get heated.

For those serious moments, Chris Poissonniez of Thickener and Sketches of a Mad Scientist suggests open communication when conflict arises to alleviate pent-up tension and prevent any resentment. "Emotions are like a pressure cooker and you have to vent," Poissonniez said. While being upfront can sometimes be beneficial, strong personalities can prevent resolution so it may be best to just take a break and walk away. Poissonniez also said that having a direct plan with your bandmates may be helpful,  setting clear boundaries and goals for the group in order to avoid chaos.


According to Travis Brenden of Enemy Camp, there is no plausible way to avoid band drama and the best way to resolve it is to part with it, whether it means finding another project or kicking out the fueler. Jason Bledsoe of Noise-A-Tron and his partner Lea did just that. After experiencing enough conflict and miscommunication, the two decided to stick to a duo and enforce a zero tolerance policy for bullshit.

Erin Dodge of Life After Life said, "Being in a band  is like being in a family or a relationship. Communication is key. You have to speak up and be real." Dodge is all about hearing every idea and respecting what her bandmates are suggesting to make everyone feel welcome, treasured and appreciated. "Learn to laugh at yourself and let it roll off your back," Dodge said, adding that life is too short to be serious and a band should bring enjoyment.

Zoanthrop's Nicholas Stejer said his band had an unspoken understanding from the beginning that every idea gets analyzed and reviewed in order to move forward. Keeping an open mind and mapping out a timeline is crucial.

Overall, as Poissonniez said, "Prevention is key." So regardless of what role you take on, just be honest and upfront so your group has a chance to make it. After all, it's all about creating something beautiful and passionate that listeners can love and appreciate. While drama may be perfect for reality TV, it has no place in the practice space.